The Caregiver’s Creed (taken from http://careliving.net/creed.aspx)
I take care of myself. I know that if I am not healthy and sound, I cannot care for another person effectively.
I accept that caregiving involves an incredible range of emotions, from anger to joy, from resentment to compassion.
I accept that my feelings are not right nor wrong. And they are as natural and unavoidable as breathing.
I have the right to receive consideration, affection, forgiveness and acceptance from my loved one as long as I offer these qualities in return.
I ask for and accept help willingly. I involve my family, friends and the community in the care of my aging loved one. I understand that it’s not my role to do it all, nor is it best for my loved one.
I actively seek out information that can help me as a caregiver. I recognize that information is empowering.
I respect the preferences and decisions of the older adult I’m caring for. I extend to my loved one the dignity and courtesy I would wish to receive if the tables were turned. I have the right to reject any attempt by my loved one ( either conscious or unconscious ) to manipulate me through guilt, anger or depression.
I recognize that change – good and bad – is a natural part of caregiving for a senior. I remain flexible and open to change.
I celebrate the small successes and allow myself to grieve the disappointments. I share my feelings with those who can empathize.
I am mindful of my own needs and I guard my rights as a caregiver. I do not allow my caregiver’s role to overwhelm the other aspects of my life.
I forgive myself my shortcomings and I congratulate myself for the effort and love I put into my caregiving.